You've been working so hard, and remembering your past struggles, I would say that your wife has definitely made HUGE strides in trying to work with you. CONGRATS!!!!!!!!
I think what you might give thought to trying... is... instead of making your physical wishes known, perhaps you can explain that you would like "US" time (whether that is in the bedroom or not, but most certainly with the focus on one another... no t.v.). Not that you shouldn't say that you hope things will move in a physical direction, but that your primary focus is to 'connect' first. ????? You might want to play the hundred questions game Honey had talked about with Hairdog... "chocolate or vanilla' 'what would you do if you won a million dollars,' type thing.
Perhaps at some point reassure her that not all physical contact must end in IC... perhaps a good make-out session with a massage... I don't know...
My point being, she seems SOOOO eager to meet you half way, which to me seems much different than the woman we were dealing with in the past... help her help you through encouragement (but not letting her off the hook), saying please and thank you throughout the day, letting her know, in the little ways that even though you may sometimes seems surly, to please be patient, and that you will be likewise to her...?????
Great ideas on the counselors...
Just my $.02. Glad to see you, friend, and that you are looking for hope...
