FWIW, on the subject of communication, perhaps the best approach is the direct approach. If s/he won't let you into her/his mind, consider letting her/him into yours. When I look back, it seems to me the best successes have happened when I've left no doubt as to my desires/intentions/wishes/thoughts/expectations/etc...
I think sometimes we shy away from directly stating what we want, in the fear that we'll get shot down. I know, I've often been the worst one for this. I remember a couple of years ago, even being afraid to broach the S subject at all, for fear of what might follow. Schnarch showed me the way on that one - I'm much less reticent now, and far more direct.
So... is this thread well and truly hijacked now???
