I think we are in agreement. I know adolescent boys can be damaged by things like you describe. That is what I was postulating to GEL, that the damage may have occurred earlier than her H’s first marriage. My thought was that by the time he married (say around 18-22), he was already shaped by any damage/shame/abuse he may have encountered. So saying his first wife could turn a man with normal sexual attitudes into someone with sexual hang-ups does not seem likely. Sure it could happen, but I think a better answer lies deeper in his past, just like you describe.
