Update Since A-Bomb in GEL Household

[Becca1975]

I agree also that #2 is a good possibility. My first H suddenly lost his sex drive after our child was born (found out later that he was only interested in young girls, having a baby made me a woman instead of a girl) and commented one night "Do you want me to just find some young stud to F you every night?". Ever since then I've had a very very hard time even giving a hint that I might be in the mood. It absolutely damaged me. So, for the past 5 years when H and I did have sex, it was an "accident" most times, I seemed to be unable to really initiate or make the approach or even act like I was interested in it. I tried and tried to change that about me but in the end, I was terrified of being humiliated like that again. Better to pretend that I'm not really that interested, that way if he is not, I don't have to look like an idiot for wanting to. The sad thing is, it is very twisted. It is one of the first things we will be fixing togehter if I can ever get him into counseling with me and home.