…#1 his parents didn't teach him that sex is a good thing, mine did
Something along these lines seems possible, or at least something from his past, but
#2 I do believe he's been involved with some women (probably not all, but at least a couple) who made him feel dirty/freakish/wierd/abnormal for wanting what he did....so he learned to hide that side.
this does not seem so likely. It’s VERY hard for me to see how a woman can make a man feel dirty/abnormal/weird about sex. Maybe the other way around, but not this way. I think the hiding tendency came from something else, but shows up with his sexual fantasies. It all seems like escapism to me – hiding his fantasies, not feeling adequate, not being assertive, falling in with more dominating women. It all fits, has a common ingredient. I’m still not convinced there isn’t a deeper layer to all this….
