If I had to pick a pivotal moment? I'm not sure I could narrow it down to one but I think for us it has really been a pivotal (wow) month almost already. I think the beginning though would definitely have to be the the day I found out what he'd been doing and hiding from me and the following happened:
#1 I was still there he he got home, when I told him all I wanted to do was leave.
#2 When he got home I TALKED to him, I didn't yell, I didn't scream, I didn't throw fits...and I gave him a chance to respond. I listened to what he had to say.
#3 I told him that flat-out this is it! This is his LAST chance...to step up and keep me in his life as his wife. I honestly had never drawn that line that firmly before....by my tone and the look on my face he knew without a shadow of a doubt, I was dead freakin serious.
Now take those three things and add them to what I did that 1st time when I refused to continue hiding MY sexual nature from him.....I pulled out all the stops, threw whatever inhibitions I had aside and showed him the wanton seductress inside me (without asking). I literally left the man speechless on our couch. I said things he's never heard come out of my mouth, I've done things he never experienced with me (and from what he says...with anyone)...but yet I know he had these visions in his head from what he viewed online. I showed him that what he had in his mind....he could have in reality with me. I wasn't turned off by it, I wasn't disgusted by it....."I" liked it too!!! But I think above all else...he's realized that I want that with HIM.
We still have loads of work ahead of us....but I do feel there has been a HUGE shift in our R. He even just called me a few minutes ago here at the office to just chat....didn't call for any other reason than to hear my voice, another new thing for him.
I don't know if that helps at all, but I think those were some of the real big defining moments and actions. I guess I really believe he finally understood....he was really going to lose me, and I know he does love me.
