Gel, First off, I am so happy for you that you turned such a negative finding and found some way to keep your marriage intact. The way you are handling it has been an inspiration to all of us and we appreciate your sharing all the updates and details.
That said, for us HD bunch, it is almost difficult to hear. You have been hiding a side to yourself for years from your husband, a side that definately needs to be taken care of. Finally you have decided that you will not continue to hide that side of yourself and you are making sure your husband knows it. And now he is reaping the benefits.
But I know that I too, have to hide that side of myeself. For years I have had to. I have attempted to bring it out in the past only to be called "selfish", "inconsiderate to her feelings of not being interested", "unrespectful to her as a woman", "living in an unrealistic fantasy world", and "inappropriatly pushy" as I attempt to communicate my wants and desires. As she says "Life is about learning to control ourselves and our desires and keeping our fantasy worlds just that... fantasy.. to ourselves".
And so, I take that side of me, that so desperately wants to come out and play, and hide him away.
But thank you, for showing us that IT IS ATLEAST POSSIBLE to someday show that side. I wish the circumstances were better in how this change happened and always hate to hear of people who are hurt or suffering. But so far you have come out with both your marriage intact and a scenerio where you don't have to keep hiding. I think for so many of us, that is a wonderful thought. So keep up the work, patience and love, and continue to let us know what is happening. Those of us still hiding are living vicariously through you.. and enjoying it!
