That will be difficult for him, it's something that I do truly believe he's never done. It takes me asking him directly for him to talk to me. To his credit, right now anyway, he is starting to talk more to me. I will be keeping an eye out too that this isn't a temporary change.
Since when would a beer stay on a woman's head when giving a BJ? Even if my head could have flat spot on the back of it....there'd be too much movement LOL.
Normally I do also turn the tv off, for no distractions.
Wow!!! Good for you! I just might take a page out of the "Gel Sex Guide for Married Couples" tonight! H won't know what hit him.
I understand why you might be hesitant to post somethings; the good , the bad , and the ugly . But personally, I would like to say thank you for sharing your story. With out your story, nothing in my R would have changed. Thank you!
Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
You go!! Maybe I'll mail you one of those hats with the beer holders for you Anniversary. Just kidding. Don't mind these testosterone crazed lugs - you are an amazing woman and your H is very lucky to have you.
I need to take a page out of your book and just say it straighforwardly. "The Fine Art of Erotic Talk" by Bonnie Gabriel is a great resource. It gives wonderful suggestions for things to say that are intimate but not necessarily x-rated, things to say that pack a little heat and on up the scale. Lots to try for the shy and for those who aren't - it is great too.
At this point I think my H just might fall down before things were ummm....concluded? So your scenario for beer drinking, tv, and BJ's...is more on the advanced level for him
Very cool, I hope I am invited to a book signing party...
Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
Awesome thread GEL! You are one amazing woman. I kept meaning to catch up with you but the thread was just growing at such a rate I was "frightened off" - LOL.
So hilarious too. I especially like your idea about the snoring! In fact I liked it so much I just laughed right out loud and my H asked what was so funny. I had to tell him so he came over to the 'puter and read it and he laughed too (he also enjoyed Cobra's idea about the beer! - but then hey what man wouldn't). BTW H can snore for Great Britain. You certainly can make lemonade out of lemons GEL.
Soooo thought you might like to know that you inspired some pretty inspiring LM in the Hap household. H has always liked it when I sit on his face however for some weird reason it has never really been my thing. Just feel so alone up there with him down below if you know what I mean. But I tell you what, last night I just thought what the heck HE enjoys it and LM should be more about the other person than about yourself – and guess what I really enjoyed it H was pretty happy too, he has tried so hard in the past to make me O that way and it’s never happened – but it did last night
Sorry this is getting graphic Oh hey you started it GEL! Just goes to show that by being really honest here we can learn and we can help each other.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
, and the ugly 
. But personally, I would like to say thank you for sharing your story. With out your story, nothing in my R would have changed. Thank you! 
however for some weird reason it has never really been my thing. Just feel so alone up there with him down below if you know what I mean. But I tell you what, last night I just thought what the heck HE enjoys it and LM should be more about the other person than about yourself – and guess what I really enjoyed it 