One observation for you all though. I've noticed that lately, since the A-Bomb dropped in the GEL household that when we do ML my H has absolutely no problem getting hard....non whatsoever, in fact it happens much quicker than it had in the past. I'm not sure what to attribute that to and I'm not going to spend much time trying to figure that out, doesn't really matter...but it's definitely a nice change.
My personal opinion to this is one of two things or maybe both.
There is no longer a lie standing between you to get in the way. The pressure of hiding that part of himself is gone.
You have excepted him at his worse and though angry did not run for the hills in disgust of him. You still love him. Which is allowing him to open up more to you in his sexual nature. He no longer feels he has to hide it and stuff it. It has enabled him to feel comfortable in his own skin with you. Only example I can think of is how my H use to deny he MB was actually critical of people for such a thing. Once I got him to do it in front of me and he realized I accepted the behavior (not the lies) and did not think he was some pervert he now has no issue with me knowing he does it and has even began touching and fondling himself in my presence while having sex.(which truthfully thinking back he had never done before). Some how some where he thought that this was something that I would find disgusting so he hid that part of himself from me. It took my acceptance to make him open enough to be comfortable with himself. Why he felt this way??? What he felt was so wronge about it that I would not love him???? I would have never found a big issue with it. (unless it was in or around my kids or at really inappropriate times). It was him that found shame in his own sexual behavior not me. Maybe his foo kicking in there. But it does sound alot like your H and his sudden ability to talk and act more sexual with you may be based in the same type of mind frame.
