Thanks, don't worry...I don't believe in instant fixes either. Especially right now...as I've told him he's going to have to continue this behavior for a long time before I believe it's a "change". He's also going to have to really step up and start dealing with the emotional baggage he's never dealt with and figure out why he did what he did to me and our R....when all along I was telling him precisely what I needed of him and he chose to meet his needs the entire time without me.
