GEL I think that was a very positive conversation and absolutely critical for your long-term success. Sure, keep the BS meter running, but the fact that he could at least state what he did is a huge step. Just helps support my claim that our ATTITUDES about sex and M play such a huge role in our sexual behavior. Unfortunately, his views are all too common. Bet lots of people on this board can see their S saying somewhat the same thing, especially the LDW's. Keep the communication going and encourage him to be his "true" self with you, the one that both of you want him to be. I'm sure the inconsistency of his sexual beliefs (can't express my true sexuality in M, but still need to have an outlet for that expression), was driving him to depression and guilt. This could be a real turning point in your M. Lots of times that is what is necessary to stop all the BS and just get real. BTDT. Stay strong. You are doing great!
