Ok...I understand about people who don't want to impose. My grandmother is that way....to the point where she's a real pain in the azz about it. In her case she takes it to the point where it's martyrdom though.
A really fussy babe though, that I can understand as a parent. I'd tell you just to bring the girls up here, we'd all have a blast in the pool and with the horses. My H may be a real jerk towards me sometimes but he's absolutely great with kids and they love him! So...just so ya know, the offer is open.