Hmmm, Quite interesting GGB! I am embarrassed to say that my body reacts almost identically to yours. The first 4-5 days are the hardest; after that, I just sortof 'forget' about it and go on with life. I still miss it, of course, but after that initial physical freakout, it turns into more of an emotional longing.
Well folks I was never saying that it is only hormones; I was just questioning this:
Does a person who feels horny enough to masturbate several times per week *really* qualify for the LD label?
It seems to me, No.
To me, that person would be HD. The proper classification for that scenario is an HDH married to an HDW, but where the H chooses not to expend his sexual energies in the R, but rather outside of it.
I don't think you can say someone is LD when they have a regular sex life. You can only say that their sex life does not include their partner.
That was my original point, not whether emotions override our sex drives or stress or whatever.
But GGB, your input is invaluable to me. You sound, in that description, exactly like my H. I can't explain to you how reassuring it is to hear it from another living breathing red blooded male.
What I can't understand is why him having a hot-to-trot wife doesn't re-focus his thoughts back towards the sexual. I can see how an HDH who has stress/emotions/whatever in his life AND a wife who doesn't nurture that side of their R would naturally find himself not thinking about it. Or maybe he *is* refocused back towards the sexual but resents the fact that I'm always there, reminding, and does not act on it. (and by 'reminding' I'm of course not speaking about anything overt or even verbal, just acting and/or dressing sexy, things like that)
This thread really does not apply to my H, I'm just having lots of thoughts swirling in my head due to GEL's hubby's situation.
