Interesting thread. My H is an enigma. I think most of his LD is not biological. Surely much more related to learned behaviors, his fears, inhibitions, experiences, our R/M, etc. And why am I HD? Same issues I just stated. A combination of all the factors together. So it really is quite an individualistic phenomenon. Can you make the common denominator be male vs female. Not really. I certainly believe we have differences but there is a large spectrum of sexual behavior for both sexes. Women mb just like men do. Women view porn. Women have one-night stands. Do women crave an emotional connection more than men? I doubt it. But we are socialized very differently. It's ok for the man to sleep around and less ok for the woman. Stud vs slut. Someone else made the great point about LD being accepted more by society for women than for men. Very true. Lots of women repress their sexuality to be the "good girl". They have a very hard time opening up to their sexuality, even within M. So I do not think the biology of women is the main cause for women's LD. I think it is more environmental. What is her background? Her experiences? Sexually or otherwise. How does she view sex in general? What is her attitude toward sex and its importance in a M? I think those are critical factors. So all of that can be applied to a man as well. If my H's attitude towards sex is greatly different than mine (which it often is) than we are bound to have problems. Our biology is our basic foundation but I think it's our environment/attitudes that determine whether or not we use what nature/God has given us. I believe biological causes for LD for either sex is fairly rare. Nature/God doesn't mess up that often
