Quote: But my point is that there is/was an emotional component to him that was most definitely working against his natural male drive. He fought it.
Yes there was definitely an emotional component--scrupulosity in his case.
But that's not really my point, either. My point is that, yeah, LD guys allegedly suppress their natural drives. Or do they?
Can a guy actually suppress the excessive force of testosterone working in their bodies? They were designed in such a way as to NOT to be able to go against it..there's that much of it floating around in their bodies. There isn't much that can work against that biological drive.
So I suppose my theory is that LD men don't ever really become LD--they just begin directing their drive elsewhere, inward usually.
LD women on the other hand truly seem to 'fit' the LD classification.
Their actions are congruous with their thoughts which are congruous with their body chemistry. It all fits together. There is a unity that, while it may be frustrating to their husbands, has to have a calming effect on the H's nonetheless.
The women constantly have this dual nature of their men to deal with--they can see the effects of testosterone working in them..most of our husbands are quite masculine..and they talk a good LD game but something's not matching up quite right.
Oh well, at this point, it's all theoretical for me. I can say that my H displays very little of his former behavior. I was just thinking out loud.
