I agree with you about the physical/emotional components of men and women's drives. I am still the HD in my relationship, but certainly my physical drive is lower than his. I have gone for months without MBing, even when we were not having sex. For me, it is not the orgasm, but the emotional connection that counts. H, on the other hand, used to MB quite frequently - a couple of times a week from what he tells me. If I am to believe him, there is no emotional component to his drive at all.
I guess when our relationship was in a bad place, he had no motivation to have a sex life with me because it was too much work to satisfy me emotionally. Ironically, he has never complained about satisfying me physically.
As for me, I was emotionally so needy and deprived that I rarely detected the physical horniness when it did show up! My radar is finely tuned now, and I usually let H know when I am actually horny, because he enjoys the physical and the erotic side of me. Its hard for me to bring out that gal when I am in an emotional state.
In any case, HP, you can add my H to the list of LDHs who was never really LD.
