Quote: I think we go to an opposite extreme when we are denied something. Just like dieting. You are told no snacks or sweets. What do you think about ALL THE TIME? Snack and sweets. IMO, I think it is the extreme behavior of the LD partner that pushes the other partmer to the HD side.
BINGO! You hit the nail on the head. The HD condition of the HD spouse is made FAR WORSE by the response of the LD spouse. The LD spouse feels like a hunted animal (I know tha tmy wife does) because the HD is FORCED to focus on what they are NOT getting. Dr. Laura addresses this all the time on her show. As she puts it, if your husband keeps bothering you for sex, how do you bring this under control? The only way to resolve the situation is the LD spouse must have LOTS of sex. This will aloow the HD spouse to UNFOCUS from sex and focus on other things. This means having sex at the frequency that the HD wants, which to most LD's looks like an impossibility (but to the HD spouse it appears NORMAL).
