Always, hang in there, today is a new day. You have come so far to give up now.
My H does the same thing, I found a debit last week for a Hallmark store! Come on, if he wants to buy her a card pay cash, but like your H it's like they don't care if we see it.
Since you have a job (I don't) then I totally agree with you that you should open your own account. I wish I could do that.
Look, your H is not doing what is in the best interest of your marriage, doesn't mean you have to go along with his frivilous spending. And when you open the account, don't tell him, he doesn't feel he needs to tell you things.... Anyway, I'm sounding a little vindictive (sp?), my own situation seeping in here.
Fighting for your marriage takes courage, patience and determination. Last night you were questioning your sanity and you were ready to throw in the towel. Don't do it, think of your children (if you have any), think of your life before the rug was pulled out from under it. You still love this man, or you would not be here. Just go with the flow right now and continue on your personal journey.
The front of my journal says this "...just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a beautiful butterfly" You are on your way to becoming that butterfly, so am I. In fact, last January on my birthday I went so far as to get a tatoo of a butterfly - total 180!
