Hey MamaBear! Thanks for stopping by! So nice to hear from folks...feel free to pipe in with advice as well...I sure can use it. I hear ya, detachment, lovingly, is best. Best not to do that too much though, which is where I am now...being careful not to detach too far. The best way I can see it is to look at your H as a REALLY good friend, even best friend, and that's it. No expectations of a H
It's effort each day. I just try to remember that he's feeling hurt and confused, and is taking time to comment on his feelings, observations, and I've found that he's backing off of his gaggle of FF's at work. Not all the way, but my C said that this is a time where he needs emotional outlets, and it's NOT me right now. So, don't get down on him for having friends.
Hmmm...BOOKS: Just finished reading "Brokeback Mountain" Nice short story. Now reading "The Namesake" by Jhumpa Lahiri. A really good read, inspirational, was "Riding the Bus With My Sister" by Rachel Simon.
