Looking back, another test today--maybe. When H went back to work, he mentioned he was so tired, with all the work. He said, a little defensive but joking, that he had to get lots of sleep tonight as tomorrow was a big day and the last time he had a big day, we had a big fight the night before--the night of our explosion 2 weeks ago (he was smiling/poking fun, but still making his point) and he didn't want that again. Instead of jumping all over it...I just joked back (really, it was the day I found about coworker, I could care less what kind of a day you had next) and said that I had no intentions of picking a fight with him...then joked and said, just for saying that, I will sit and think of a great topic to pick a fight with...I laughed hard (I crack myself up sometimes!). He laughed too, a little sheepishly. I gave him a hug b/c it was nice to poke fun, and also b/c I wanted him to know he was safe.
Nice that he said what he did...normally he wouldn't express his disturbance. He did in a joking way, I think to express himself (he's getting bolder) and to test if I would defend myself or get mad again and ask/mention coworker--I didn't--I don't care and want him to know he can do whatever he wants. BUT, to MY defense, I did NOT apologize about the long fight and the fact that he had 2 hours of sleep, just said it wouldn't happen tonight...I figure if you hide something like that, you better be able to talk about it for as long as I want, I'm not really thinking of your work schedule needs at that point (at the time he didn't expect me too and was willing to talk all night).
