Thank you for your responses. Stigmata, to answer your questions, he is in a good place mentally after completing college and proving to himself he could do it. Now he is substituting and coaching baseball at the junior college. both pay him. He will do this until Sept. when he will go back to school for two more semesters to complete his credentialing. I have always made more money than he has so I really dont think the money is the issue, it is just that he feels he can only focus on one thing at a time. He says he cant concentrate on a sexual relationship with me and concentrate on school too. Do you understand this? I know he wants to get it all done so that he can get hired on as a full time teacher with his own classroom at the high school level.
Meanwhile I find this so hard. He says it would be no different no matter who he was with. I disagree on so many levels. First of all, no one else would allow him to do this and I dont think he would have taken the OW or any other new woman in his life for granted in that way, nor would they have allowed it. I feel he would have made the effort for them even if it was just to keep up apperances. With me he just takes for granted I will keep on putting my own needs aside and wait for him. What if all of this is accomplised and he still doesnt want a sex life with me? He also used my weight as an excuse, said he was not attracted to me. That excuse is also now gone. I have done everything he has asked.
Add to the above this change in his abilities to perform (he admitted he sometimes had the same problem with OW). I dont know how I could approach him about going to the dr. to get some chemical help or advise. How do I do this without making him feel less than? I also saw something online: a penis sleeve. Have you heard of that?
Any help you can give me would be appreciated. I dont want to hurt his feelings or give up.
