You did good young Grasshopper! We are all very proud of you! You did things that pleased YOU! That is all you can do right now! Do things for youself. You and I are so similar. We both judge are actions in many ways how they will impact our W and our R. From my perspetive looking back at my own sitch as soon as I started acting the way I wanted, and did things for my W and for myself because I wanted to things began to change. I stopped worrying about the impact on the R and things started to change as you know! All in all you did awesome, and your W better wake up and smell the roses that she may lose the best thing in her life because YOU choose to do so!
Tim
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