Well, I hope you're having amazing time in Ireland, but I guess your fanclub here misses you already

Is that true? Sometimes I have trouble viewing it as loyalty and not seeing it through the filter of many in the world that would view it as weak codependence.

Well, let me put it this way.
That book about Mars and Venus you recommended, I found it accidentally on my friends' bookshelf right after that
I opened it you know, and somewhere in the first chapter the author mentioned that his wife had called him "fair weather friend" meaning someone who is a friend when things are going fine, but when the weather changes, so long.

See, you are certainly not a fair weather friend, nor are you a fair weather husband for that matter. For when the road gets rough you don't jump off the vehicle complaining of discomfort and how the ride stopped being comfortable for you, therefore have a nive life, see ya later. As long as we could observe, you demonstrated incredible perseverance even though it wasn't exactly in your character before.

Of course if you ask WAS they will probably tell you that what you demonstrated speaks more of dependance, neediness, fear of being alone, and being a doormat/ They might come up with many other explanations; but I think we now know better than to listen to WAS theories of personality.

What your behavior comes down to is this: you were hurt, you felt and had every right to feel betrayed, you found yourself in a very uncomfortable situation being unprepared as I can guess.
What happened after that, is you refused to let the situation dictate what's gonna happen next, you found inner strenght, you found recources, you started working on yourself and I dare say that in the process you came up with lots of very thoughtful and useful advice that you shared with cohabitants of this board.
Not to mention that you didn't just say WTF HOW DARES SHE and left complaining of untrustworthiness of women and unfairness of the destiny.

You found strength and resources in yourself to become a better man.
To me it sounds as a dream H
Someone who would do whatever it takes in the face of adversity, even if he is all alone in this and has to struggle for his R without any help from another S.
Think about it.

To get through the darkest period of the night, act as if it is already morning. The Talmud