I have followed your thread pretty closely and really admire how far you've come.
I think the latest developments - your wife telling you 'its time to get stuff under control' is a really positive development. As a woman, I can tell you, that this comment definitely means a lot. I am glad that you responded lightly. I feel that all the flirting you've been doing has been showing results. Often this is what women find lacking in the marriage and often why women look outside. Sorry if I am rambling.
I actually just wanted to comment on your hourglass analogy without hijacking PArob's thread. Your analogy really hit home. It is such a creative way of putting it. The process of 'going through to the other side' (in other words 'change') appears painful; yet I feel that it is perhaps our resistance to the change (or to continue your analogy, noticing that the opening is too narrow, not being used to the walls, or not being able to see the other side clearly) that is the real source of pain. I think as individuals, if we are able to trust the process we provide less resistance and are able to make a much more pain free transition.
I did not mean to ramble on and on; just wanted to express my appreciation for your post. Hope you enjoy your trip to Ireland.
