Like I said, W's idea of our trip seems quite a bit different than mine, but no matter. It will be fun. The main thing now is me dealing with my W being VERY distant the past couple days. Really, yesterday, the day after our little R talk, she was hardly there. We didn't talk much at all. When we were in the same room it was strained. None of the talk about the trip we have been doing lately. This is strange because she is usualy more friendly after one of the R talks. Like I told Rob, she usually makes it a point to be friendly and more open, almost to prove that I was making a big deal out of nothing. Having just finished the part of Mars/Venus that talks about a woman feeling down sometimes and NOT to take it personally, I am just going to ride this out and see what happenes. On that note about the book. There was a lot of stuff it was talking about that I could not identify with and it was beginning to turn me off. Now, however, I am back to stuff that really resonates with me and my situation, mainly the way it talks about men always wanting to fix they W's moods and talk them out of their feelings. The part I was most interested in was the theory that over time, women who have this done to them will stop sharing and eventually experience a sense of lost love. WAW anyone? Of course, there are things the book suggestes to do to avoid this, but I think it will not go into ways to fix this problem once it advances as far as mine has. I guess what I am taking from this book is something that is a theme in most of the books I have read; don't take things personally. Mars/Venus tends to break things down along gender lines to tell you WHY a man should not take something personally that a woman does or says and that's helpful to a clueless guy like me. I really think I need to make myself a cheat sheet to keep with me on the trip outlining the most important things I have learned and behaviors I want to exhibit. I have such mixed feelings now. I am totally excited and anxiety filled at the same time.
