what do you mean you didn't live up to my billing - first there was no billing, and second, you did just that
The way I see it you did just as I described - you got emotional, you recognized it, you felt your feelings, and then you decided to stop them and stopped them. What, do you seriously think that if you were an excellent DBer you what, wouldn't feel any emotions or would be cool and happy? Is that even possible? As I said, perfection as I see it is owning up to and controlling one's emotions; and unless you're discussing the same things now with your W, I can say that you found a proper outlet for them hence you don't let them eat you up on the inside, and yet you don't let them get you into a heated discussion. Try to imagine what would have happened in the same situation 2 months ago - you would probably have gone ballistic, wouldn't you. Therefore you're learning. A good DBer is the one who learns AND who is getting results.
No matter how put together, calm and cool I behave when interacting with my H, he's still with the OW and still wants to be with her. Your W is clearly expressing regret and intention to stay with you. Hence I rest my case
To get through the darkest period of the night, act as if it is already morning.
The Talmud
