I sympathize with you, GH.

That's how I feel most of the time. Intellectually, I know what I should/n't do - emotionally, that's what gets me every time. I might as well throw the book right out the window becasue that's where my brains seem to go.

It's funny you should mention the Mars/Venus role reversal. I, being of the female persuasion, gave up reading that book becasue I couldn't identify with any of the female crap. I seemed to identify with the men...

Look, you hurt because you are human. If you didn't hurt, then it would be cause to worry. Right now, you feel the weight of the world is on your shoulders. The weight of saving your M. That's a lot of pressure, especially considering you don't know where your W is at right now or if she'll come around.

Maybe take a day or two off from the self-help stuff! Read up on Ireland...or places where you'll be going. Sorry for not be able to give you better advice, but I know how you feel. And we're all here for you!