Sorry, I haven't read all of your threads, although I've been trying to keep up. I had a thought that maybe you're placing too much expectations on this one trip. Maybe you should look at it as a "first date" {beginner's mind} kind of thing with your W. Maybe before you go, if it hasn't been discussed already, you could ease her mind a little, {as well as yours} by stating to her that you aren't placing any expectations on this trip. Get it out front before you go rather than while you are there and potentially spoiling a good, relaxing time.
Are you an 'agenda' type person or spur of the moment? Maybe try the opposite on this trip. Unless of course it's a guided tour - I'm sorry if I'm not up to speed on the finer details. But, you still have the potential do 180's while you are there.
And, don't ask the status of the A. While enquiring minds want to know, DB advises against it. Act "as if"....maybe re-read the parts of DB significant to your sitch prior to your departure for a refresher course. Our egos and our pride cause us to do stupid things we deem as our right. DBing feels unnatural to most of us, but it makes so much sense. Don't ask, don't beg, act fun, friendly and happy go lucky - especially apt when in Ireland with the luck of the Irish and all that!!
