My own 2 cents ... your R is going to be a topic at some point on your Ireland trip. In fact, though I know your W doesn't like to talk about such things, I feel confident that she will bring it up at some point. I just don't think you can be together that much in such a romantic setting and not have it come up.
Why should you talk her level of commitment to you before the trip when the trip may very well change her level of commitment?
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
