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[StrongEnough]

Thanks C4H. Your description is pretty accurate. H lashes out, then when he calms down he is all apologies and sweetness. Well, I am not falling for it this time. No how, no way. I am plain sick and tired of it. I am tired of the holes in the walls and doors, dents in everything, and now probably a broken screen door for the glass slider....not to mention things like the candle tipping and almost starting a fire. Enough is enough. I have to draw the line somewhere. I told him I did not except his apology and that I am setting my boundaries. Flew right over his head. I told him that this always has to be about him. IOW, when he has a problem, I have to handle it a certain way....so he can feel comfortable in sharing. When I have a problem, I have to just deal with what I get. I don't live on a one way street.

As you can tell I am disgusted, angry, disappointed and totally overwhelmed with the things I have to get done with both kids having been here all day.

He will admit he has an anger problem when he is in the apologetic stage. Then, it's a forgotten issue and god forbid I bring it back up. Then, I am "labeling" him again.

I don't know how to handle the situation any better then I did. I would not let my kids watch that and go through and think it's ok, so I told him he had to leave if he wanted to act that way. Obviously, he wanted to continue because he left rather then try to calm down. He will never change because he doesn't want to.

~SE