New Year, New Life, New Me...New Thread!

[StrongEnough]

Ok, so first day on new lifestyle change went well. I stayed well within my point range. I am determined to do this. I want to wear my bikini again this summer.

H and I didn't talk a whole lot last night about the situation of him going away and me going away overnight. He had his test yesterday and although he passed, it was incomplete due the regional supervisor not doing his assessments, etc. H is VERY frustrated. Since he started this job, he has had no guidance, no support from the current general or regional manager. He is very overwhelmed and ready to throw the twowel in. The kicker was, he has to go in today to meet with the regional manager for the assessment at 10 am. The general manager said "I'll meet you there at 12". Well......H has already put in 50+ hours this week. Now, on his one day off he has to go in. To top it off, he is going to have to hang around for an hour or so to wait for the general manager.

<Sigh> What makes this so hard for him is that he had another job offer at the same time he had this one. The other job offer paid more money, but this offer was something different then he's been doing. He kicks himself now for taking it. I really didn't know how to respond, so I told him I was sorry that he is unhappy with his job and whatever he decides to do I will support his decision. But, a positive came out of it too. He doesn't want to train for another job, then move. So, now he is really ready to do what has to be done here to sell the house and move. Then he can train for another job in NH. I was thrilled with that outcome to say the least.

So, that's my story. All in all I am feeling good and things seem to be good. What more could I want?

~SE

[StrongEnough]

Had a very busy weekend around here this weekend. H and I got everything done that we needed to in order to prepare for his going away this week. (You might think he was going forever...) But, it was nice to have everything I need until he gets home because S2 is a big boy and can be a handful and a half to take out, sometimes I have trouble controlling him because of his incredible strength. Oh well, he's my little guy and I love him to bits. Ugh..and he is turning 3 next month.

So, we had a long drive with the kids going shopping and such today. We were relaxed and the kids were watching the dvd player..so I thought it was a good time to bring up Foxwoods. I told him that I wanted to discuss before he left for his trip so if I had to cancel I had time. Long story short, he is all good with me going alone. He is going to worry because of where it is and who works there, but the way things have been between us gives him a certain level of comfort, trust and happiness. He said he wants me to be able to do what I want to do and not worry about it. All in all the conversation went nicely and I think we both felt good about it.

So, H left. I was fine all day, then for some reason or another when he was getting ready to go, I got really upset. I told him that I just have this "feeling of impending doom". Like this time away is going to make him/me/us realize we don't want to be together. Crazy. I don't know what is going on in my mind.

So, while he is away I am going to paint the rooms I have to, etc. We discussed today about moving as soon as D10 finishes school so she'll have time to make friends before starting school in a new state. We talked about all the benefits of moving. This state is terrible. They tax us to death. I already pay $4200 a year in real estate taxes. They assessed the houses 2 years ago and my taxes went up. They reassessed them again, and my property value increased by $100,000. So.....I am looking at an additional $3,000 in RE taxes if I stay here. Umm...yeah, I'm all set. To me, that's just outrageous. We have to pay for the city having been mismanaged for too many years. Well, we (school systems) didn't get any of the money that the city government was embezzling and stealing and giving out to the wrong people. I didn't elect them, not my fault. Anyway, I could on and on about politics but I won't.

So, it's going to be a LOOONNNGGG week.

~SE

[Becca1975]

Boy I sure hear ya on strong willed little boys. My 4 year old is something else and of course the things going on with H and I only make that worse.

So if your house went up $100k in value, then you will get more out of it when you sell right? I tell ya, Real Estate is where it is at. Homes here are going up about $20k a year.

I know that feeling of impending doom all too well. I had it when H left to go to Wa. Is this going to be the time he decides to sleep with this stupid female friend of his? I think sending someone away just makes you emotional.

If I were nearer, I'd help ya paint! I wish I could paint here. Maybe one of these days when the landlord decides I am here to stay for a while, who knows.

Keep yourself busy and if you get lonely, I'm always around. And I DO mean ALWAYS, lol.

[always_14]

Hey there, SE! Sounds like a NICE conversation with H. From his reactions last week, sounds like he's come a LONG way, or is having a nice, secure day. Whatever the case, he expressed his honest emotions and still let you go. He has a lot of faith in you, so that's nice.

Do you 2 plan to call each other nightly? That's an opportunity to connect, which is always a chance to pull each other closer and the other to not stray.

I have the same feeling. My trip is coming up in about 3 weeks or so, and I STILL have to make plans, etc. I am putting it off b/c I have the same feeling. That H will play the entire time, and when I come home, he will decide that WE/M is not what he wants after all, happy being single. After all, that was the dominant feeling just 1.5 weeks ago. Then, I feel that this is out of my hands now, and if a trip away decides that, then so be it. There wasn't much I could do anyway. I plan to just work at being a great me until then, and let H go.

Painting...not to brag, but we finished a FAB paint job and I have become quite the expert at faux finishes...wished I lived closer too, we could paint.

You're from RI? My FAVORITE place is Casserta's Pizza and Pastiche. Hey, gotta love lil Rhody! You'll make a killing on your home, so it's all worth it!

Stay calm this week, and keep busy like Becca said. Keep your mind off of things and keep to your health goals to feel good. If you think of H, make sure they're positive thoughts and memories...you'll radiate that.

[StrongEnough]

Thanks ladies! I needed to read those things. I will keep busy and keep my mind off things.

I would LOVE to have the two of come here for a visit. Not to paint though......thanks for the offers but I couldn't have my guests painting...or could I? Hmm.....

Always- I understand your anxiety over the upcoming trip. But, make the focus of it you and only YOU. Have fun, detach...put that skinny 110 pounds into some cute clubbing clothes and go mingle!!! Ahh...Casserta's. Lived in RI my whole life, heard so many people rave about that place and not once had I ever eaten there. Go figure. Where are you from in the area? Where are you now?

C4H- Where are you? You haven't given any input lately! Cat got your tongue????

~SE

[Becca1975]

Where IS C4H? Haven't seen him around in a while. Hope everything is ok.

I wouldn't mind helping you paint...I'm sure us ladies could have some fun! Couple of bottles of booze....sounds like a party to me!

[StrongEnough]

Hahaha.......yes and we could use TJ's "thong" painting idea!! Now.....that's a party!

[Becca1975]

Ohhhhh, NOW you have my attention!

[always_14]

Thong painting??!! A new "faux" technique that is, no doubt, highly recommended by Martha!!! Yeah, paint and drink wine, that's how H and I got it done....ya know, that sounds so nice, wish we could do it!!!

SE--H was born and raised in RI (3 generations). IL's recently moved south, so I've been there so much and lived there for a few months before we got married (hopping b/w Boston and RI). They lived in Cranston for the last 7 yrs, but he was raised in N. Scituate. You gotta go to Casserta's, my FAVORITE place. Cassarino's is nice too. I was just in RI this past Oct..in fact, the lovely location of the implosion of our M...when I confronted H about things and he let loose. We went for a friend's wedding in Block Island and stayed in RI for the week (during the floods) around Chepachet and Providence. I really love that state...though this time we had a less than fabulous time. We went to Newport, Beaver Tail Point, and drove all around.

We live in NM now.

[StrongEnough]

Yes, the new thong painting technique gives it the "faux" marbled look.......lol.

I remember now. (your story of RI and where you live now) So many people on these boards in so many different locations...hard to keep track, sorry. Sorry your last trip here was lousy. Tell you what I'll do, since you love this state....I'll sell you and H my house. How does that sound? Hahahhaha.......It's located in one of the cities that you mentioned where your H's parents lived. (hey, can't blame a girl for trying )

You're both right though about making $$ on the house. I bought this place before the real estate market went crazy. So, compared to what I payed for it....it's worth three times more then that. Pretty good investment! I have been looking in NH for a year or so and have seen the inflation in the prices. It's not crazy yet, but I think now is the time to buy there. H spoke to the regional manager last week about a transfer. He said he would give the NH regional manager a heads up that he was looking to relocate. That is a huge weight off H's shoulders. Nothing but positives for the move.

Ok, enough rambling. Sorry for the book. I got no sleep last night....and I ramble on when I am tired.

~SE