WOW...what a change for him, from the crazy, controlling H. That is wonderful. I'm sure he is pushing his feelings down, and you handled it nicely. Good to readdress, too. All in all, I think you got a good reaction from him because you were considered his feelings, that must make him feel good (remember, I'm speaking from your Hs side of the fence). I would feel a little uncomfortable, but knowing that my spouse cared about my feelings would make me feel WORLDS better and ultimately OK with the situation.
How about tonight you tell him that you know it probably will be uncomfortable for him, you understand. You don't want to do that to him, so ask for HIS help to come up with a solution, where you still go, and he feels comfortable (like, who else besides your mom can you take, or can he come with you for a bit?).
You know all those pestering qusetions I asked you the other day...what triggers his reactions, etc. Well, this is exactly what you're doing now. See how miraculously it works? You know what triggers him, you address it, respect it, and he reacts differently. It all comes from him feeling like you don't care, or don't love him.
