New Year, New Life, New Me...New Thread!

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Becca- Thanks for the advice. I have set boundaries. H has admitted he needs to handle better and differently then he currently does. The problem is when he gets angry, all boundaires, rules and so forth are out the window and his anger and release of that anger gets priority.

I agree that no one deserves to be treated the way he treats me sometimes. Ironically, he is the first one to speak up when my mother is off the wall and treating me like crap. So he can spot the behavior, know it's wrong, yet still not be able to control it in himself.

He did not apologize for the "boyfriend" comment he made last night in reference to the boards. He is so insecure that the mere fact that I come here and post here send him into a tizzy.

I will look for the book you recommend.

Ironic thing. I am cleaning D10's room. To say it looks like a tornado ripped through it is an understatement. Well, she has journals and diaries up the ying yang. SO, in trying to determine which ones were old, I came across something she wrote in one of her journals on 1/01/06. She told her journal that she had a really bad dream the night before. In looking back, that was the night that I asked H for a seperation and he flipped out on me screaming, swearing and slamming his head into things. Got totally sh!t faced and passed out in the living room. She didn't have a bad dream, she had a bad reality. This really makes me sad for her.