SE, That's a hard...Er, difficult question to answer. I'm really on the wrong side of the fence. I'm the controlling jerk, a self aware controlling jerk, and hopefully in recovery, but I don't know how to advise you on the detachment thing.
Let me give it some thought. I'll try to imagine what might have worked on me. My problem is I became self aware too late, at least for my last R, but just in time for my next.
