C4- are you suffering from lack of oxygen to the smaller brain??? Quite brazen and bold today my friend. It's all good though.

I understand and relate to everything you said. So, basically when he tells me he trusts me and knows I would never cheat, yadda, yadda, yadda......it's a line BS. It's just another tactic to manipulate by making me feel like I can't do anything that could raise doubt in his mind.

I really wish that he would even consider, just for a second, that he exhibits this behavior. Alas, he is in denile and gets pissed about it saying that everyone is trying to just "label" him and nothing of the sort. I know full well that if I choose to stay in this marriage that I will spend the rest of my life being controlled to a certain extent. THe problem is, with guys like you/him you are very very good at twisting things to make the controlled person feel crazy for even having thought or felt that way. It's just a vicous cycle. THe question is, if I detach.....will it break the cycle or does it have to be him specifically to detach?

I'm moving on...at last I can see...life has been patiently waiting for me.


Me-32
WAH-35
DD-11
DS-4
H left 11-03
Piecing- 12/04
WAH again- 03/07
Married 12 years
Divorce final May 15, 2007