Unfortunately it makes a great deal of sense.
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could lead to an epiphany

or it could lead to something else.

This is really sad, because I understand all to well the thought process. It's insecurities that drive the controlling behavior. It's not strength or dominance, it's weakness.

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As long as he has some fear that he could or may lose me, he will try to control and maipulate to the best of his ability to ensure he is always in the forefront and watching what I do. Therefore, making it difficult for me to detach.


EXACTLY!!

And here is the irony - He/I will never be able to let go of the insecurities that cause the controlling behaviors, that drive our spouses away, that creates the insecurities, that cause the controlling behavior, that drives our spouses away .............. until He/I/We detach ourselves.

Damn, I'm good today. Lets get together an I'll show you how good.