New Year, New Life, New Me...New Thread!

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We are free from the control that others had over us, because we gave it to them and now we're taking it back.

I think you hit on something here. Took me a while to realize it, but it finally came to me. H gets upset and distant when I am detaching and taking charge on my own life and happiness. I never understood why he would want me to be emotionally needy. (He claims he doesn't but actions speak louder then words) and it IS a control thing isn't it? When he no longer controls or influences my life, to someone who is controlling by nature, it must be untolerable. That explains why he gets short fused and distant. It's all about control just as it always has been.

Thanks C4H. I think I finally have a little clue.

~SE