The way you describe your H's behavior does border on the side of problematic IMO. If it is being overdone. I would have kept the tracker and as I tried to allow myself/him to bring it on more in the bedroom monitered to see if his viewing pleasure decreased some.
You will need to speak to him at some point. Speak not lambast is the key. Don't approach it until you know you can keep your emotions in check. But dwelling and holding it is is going to make that harder.
You said things are going back to the norm. One weekend does not change the norm. It is just as much up to you to keep the flirting and sexy air charged as it is your H. Making this routine will be what changes the norm. Not one really good fkkk feast.
Sorry you are feeling icky today. Take care of yourself.
Oh and the pole dancing thing hmmm if I had one to dance on I could so see me doing that !