I feel that porn in moderation is fine for both men and woman. But the key word is moderation it is easy to become addicted to things. But just because you are 10lbs over weight and like food does not make you a food addict anymore then liking a glass of wine with dinner makes you a drunk. It is all about when the need for it overtakes your self control and moderation is thrown out the window it becomes problematic.
I myself would have to ask my H how he feels about porn and if he ever browses at it and from his response decide how problematic I found it. I have already faced this one awhile back. My H did not come clean and actually was acting morally superior to others on this issue when he him self was partaking of this activity himself. That was problematic to me not the porn. He is free to view it as long as the timing is not inappropriate. But he is not free to deny or condeem others for it IMO.
So with your attitude like Gels this may turn out to be a opening for good healthy change within your relationship. I wish you luck!
