Good morning right back at you, although it isn't particularly good. Woke up with a sinus headache, all the weather changes. Plus all 3 kids have the glazed donut face thing going. It is cute when the twins run up to me and say "daddy I need a tissue" and there is snot running down to their chin.
"I am looking forward to the weekend!"
Hold that thought. Keep it in the forefront of your mind. Don't let anything get between you and that positive attitude. It's half the battle won if you can keep it.
"Some funny stuff happened last night, it could have been really awkward, but we were able to make jokes. ..."something about the dog finding a new toy under the bed, bringing it downstairs and dropping it into a guests lap"...now wouldn't that be embarrasing!"
ROTF I SOOO want something like that to happen to the ILs. I guess I'm just egging on trouble, but I have "accidentaly" left a box of condoms and the bottle of astroglide out where MIL could see it a few times. Bad Chrome.
Have a great time, you deserve it
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
darlingnicky something I have done that is a complete 180 for me is to stay up until my H is ready for bed. If I had my choice I would be in bed by 9:00 and watch TV until I fall asleep, but my H likes to stay up until 11:00 or later.
Granted I am a little sleep deprived, but this has really seemed to help some with my sitch. Just thought I would share that...
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Thanks for that advice. I have noticed, only recently, that if I stay up later, he goes to bed with me, or around the same time. Maybe I will make a little experiment out of this and start staying up later. I have defintely have reason to stay up, plenty to do...maybe I will get some things crossed off my to-do list too!
Thanks, Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
"Plus all 3 kids have the glazed donut face thing going."
That is the best analogy...we have that going on in our house too...so gross! LOL
"I guess I'm just egging on trouble, but I have "accidentaly" left a box of condoms and the bottle of astroglide out where MIL could see it a few times."
Too funny, yes, I just love it when the IL's come over and see lingerie handing up to dry in the laundry room...
Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
Well, I thought I would post an update on our weekend. It seems that H DOES have desire. We had an awesome conversation Saturday morning. We talked openly about what we want, what we would like to try (now, and eventually later), we were blunt about our words, no shyness what so ever. By the end of the conversation H had a huge woody and we were making out like teenagers in the middle of the kitchen. Something he would never have done before. There was also moments of teasing and touches through out the weekend, which has never happened. I am in shock that all of this is actually happening.
So, it looks like H is pretty hung up on what is supposed to be "normal" and that he thinks he shouldn't be wanting the things he does. It's going to take some time, but I think we are on our way. Our communication has never been better, it is great to ask him, "hey, does this turn you on" and him tell me yes or no.
After ML on Sunday, he says to me, "boy, our SL was really boring wasn't it?". Yes it was, but not anymore!
Not that I am ignoring the porn thing, but I am going to stop monitoring his computer activity. He has shown no signs of doing anything but looking. This could have had a different ending, but I am so glad I was able to turn my findings into something positive for us. It helped find out that he does have desire, I just had to unlock it!!!
Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
"Thank you, thank you very much" says Nicky doing her best Elvis immitation.
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
I owe it all to you...thanks for helping me thru this. I am glad I took the plunge and installed that software...I am glad I did not confront him about it and I too and not willing to be someone I am not anymore.
Something odd C said to me yesterday. "All men look at porn." Hearing this from two male friends, two female friends AND my mother AND the MC, what the F? Are we so desensitized as a socitety that it's okay for guys to do this on a regular basis? As much as I am accepting this, there is something unsettling about it as well. Do you think your H will ever be "allowed" to look at porn again, with out you there?
Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
You are more than welcome if anything I did helped you.
To answer your question....yes, as long as my H doesn't hide it from me in the future (and we're talking some time from now) and we have a healthy sex-life on our own, and the rest of our R is going pretty well....I don't have a problem with it. I've told him this all along.
Now, having said that I'll also say it will depend upon what type of porn he's looking at as well. Websites such as adultfriendfinder.com will never be acceptable to me....for any reason.
Something he would never have done before. There was also moments of teasing and touches through out the weekend, which has never happened. I am in shock that all of this is actually happening.