darlingnicky something I have done that is a complete 180 for me is to stay up until my H is ready for bed. If I had my choice I would be in bed by 9:00 and watch TV until I fall asleep, but my H likes to stay up until 11:00 or later.
Granted I am a little sleep deprived, but this has really seemed to help some with my sitch. Just thought I would share that...
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011