Yes, I agree whole heartedly that telling him why the sudden change in my bedroom behavior whole be really bad. The funny thing is that it's nothing off the wall, things I have fantasized about a million times. The difference is I was sitting back waiting for him to do these things to me and he was sitting back waiting for me to tell him to do these things to me.
So, the hard part is dealing with the fact that he is looking at this stuff A LOT. I confided in two of my closest girlfriends and it was very disheartening when they said, "what's wrong with him looking at porn?" Their view is all guys do it, no big deal. Because they are the LD spouses in their relationships, they don't really understand what it's like for me. Even tho I explain, they don't really get it. I am feeling very grateful to have everyone on the boards here, who understand where I am coming from and offer such wonderful advice!
Have a great day! Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
