RE Landica do HD men find themselves more drawn to porn as a substitute for not only an unavailable W, but also a more acceptable substitute for an affair?
Unavailable/LD mental attitude wife is first thing that might be true in most cases but a substitute for an A, I think that is stretching things. I think porn (LDW cases) is mostly something to get a guy through a tough spot/s. I think most guys would give up the excessive/problematic porn for the real thing.
I read/heard that sexual energy unexpressed goes some where. Work, sports, drinking, internet addictions, buying things, etc, so some porn is driven by LDW/HDH situation.
I always thought I was beyond looking for an A but reading about A's, on the net and in books, I had a light bulb moment. The circumstances i/we were in were prime triggers and fertile ground for an A to start. Pictures were not going to solve my longterm problems. So are they an acceptable substitute for an affair. Not really a substitute, just a temporary crutch.
The good side to my situation is, I work at home, don't see many women my age during any hours of the day or night, read how A's mess up people/famalies, and read if you don't fix what is wrong in your current R, many of those same problems will just follow you to the next R. I also know that I am human and have faults and can be tempted. Sorry if that is TMI or the wrong kind of info. Just my view
