Quote: I will say I learned a few things as I had a somewhat sheltered sexual life and never was daring enough in my younger years to find out what people were doing much past the common missionary position. I also look at and read many, many web sites about relationships to try to figure out what I might do to improve our R.
I would love for this to be the answer as to why he is doing it. One can hope. I am afraid to have false hopes. If I did find something else out, like what GEL found, I would totally loose it. I have been able to keep cool because I am a human being, and yes I know guys look at porn. In a health relationship I see little wrong with it.
However, in my sitch, I don’t think it’s an acceptable behavior for my H to have. He claims to be “working on our M”, but yet the only thing I am asking of him, he is still being deceitful about.
Quote: I could write more but it might be TMI, not useful for you, and I don’t want this post to be about what I needed or about me, but to just say the relationship journey is still an unwritten book.
You are welcome to write as much as you feel comfortable. Your posts speak of maturity and experience and are comforting. I will take on the attitude that the “pot is still cooking”. I do want this M to work, but I am more sure now that I must be more cautious and protect myself from further hurting.
Thanks Lou, Nicky
"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'"
Frederick Collins
