Update:

So after two sessions with the MC, by myself (no H), I was brave enough to confront H and "be real" and honest about where I at in out R. I told H it comes down this:

"I love you more than anything in the world, I want to grow old with you. I want to have dreams for our future. I want to have an intimate relationship with you, but more importantly I want you to want that with me and be able to show it. If you want that too, we have to work harder at our relationship. If you don’t want these things, let’s just get it out in the open."

His response was something like this:

He just doesn't feel a strong sexual need and he has to work on it not only for me, becuase he does want to be with me forever, but also for himself otherwise he will loose everything that is important to him. He also says that there's nothing about me that I need to change, it's him that has to change. He thinks I am sexy.. and has from the day he first met me.

So, it's not me, it's him. It is REALLY hard to just sit back and let him be in control of this whole situation. I am thinking that I need to continue my role as the initiator and give him the opportunity to say yes, and go thru with it and be more "involved in the act". I think that if I back off totally, and wait for him to come around it may be too much for him tackle right away. I can't expect him to all of a sudden have a desire and initiate, right? Baby steps...

Am I being too naive about the whole, "it's not you, it's me" thing? There is something that sits just a little North of un-easy with me...

Nicky

"There are two types of people -- those who come into a room and say, 'Well, here I am,' and those who come in and say, 'Ah, there you are.'" Frederick Collins