I'm warped I see this as good communication. You both had a lot to say, and said it. Will it all turn out the way you would like it too? maybe, maybe not.
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that I wanted to stop this shamble of a M, for myself, be respectful, caring and kind.

If that is really true, how you truly feel, you are on your way to a better life.

I don't have the long eloquent posts that you have such a gift for, sorry. Someone will be along with wisdom and knowledge. Until then, (((always)))

Live your life while you are still living.
Riding the trail less traveled.