Hi all, I haven’t posted in a while because things HAD been going so well. Theres a link to a couple of my threads below. My W wanted a divorce in August and with the help of Michelle’s book and a couple of others plus you all here I was able to save my marriage, at least for the time being. Lately shes talked about needing space again. Ive been trying to go out with friends and stay away like I did a bit this weekend but its hard with three young children to stay away. I was gone Sat. night and went to the gym and to a friends on Sunday till about 2:00. When I got home she was happy to see me and I ended up playing with the kids until dark in the yard while she hung out and watched then made dinner. At dinner she wanted me and her to sit together, normally we don’t, we instead sit between the kids to help them with there dinner. Then in bed we talked and watch some TV like every night. I rolled over to go to sleep and she started rubbing my back and said she had anxiety/panic attacks all day when I was gone and told me “I guess that’s a good thing”, I told her I think of her and the kids always when im not at home. She says shes got things from our past she just cant let go of and doesn’t know if she can love me the way I deserved to be loved. She also thinks im a great father and husband as I ALLWAYS put her and the kids first, witch im sure is why she just cant justify leaving me as are life really is great together. Im very religious and believe in unconditional love towards my wife and children and at this point shes saying shes not a Christian anymore if god would rather her be trapped in a marriage that be happy. Deep down inside she knows she wouldn’t be happy without me and neither would the kids, and she also has no real reason to end it either witch must be VERY frustrating and make her feel even more trapped. She says she loves me and is attracted to me and constantly talks about our future together but also says she has a lot of resentment towards me that she doesn’t know if she can get over. My W is not mentally stable and never has been, she really does create her own reality most of the time but when she lives in our reality she is happy. Any advice? I thought we were good but then bam she started ?ing things again out of the blue. She tells me she loves me all the time, last night she woke me up to ML then this morning she seemed pretty distant and just hopped in the bath while I got the kids ready for school and never came out before I left. Im not sure what to do? Should I give her space by going to the gym and hanging out with friends more? Mabey start sleeping on the couch a bit? Change thing up in our routine to make her realize how much she love the simple life we have? She always says she loves our simple little life and how lucky we our, maybe its time to show her something a little different? Im thinking shes wanting out at this point but just cant justify it and its really eating her up inside cause she knows what the right thing to do is? Oh and she asked the other day if id go back to councelling with her and I said sure. Please, any advice you could give would be great.
