I think one of the things you, and all of us deal with is this idea that the marriage is not closed yet, and the slightest little thing may send them back to the OM. It is a very destructive idea that I see all the time here, especially where you are in the sitch. I struggle with how that changes, and when we can be sure, if ever, that an A is NO LONGER AN OPTION for them. When is the marriage the ONLY option like it's supposed to be. I don't mean that in a controlling, "me man, you my woman" kind of way, I mean in a "for better or worse" kind of way. Does it ever get to the point where it really feels like that again or is that just a fantasy that people who haven't been cheated on yet believe in?
Wow, sorry. That was pretty negative. As for you Rob, I think you are doing great. You are sticking to your goals and keeping your emotions in check. This is a rough time and you W seems to be doing her part to say/do the right things. Lets hope she keeps it up.
