OT's correct, and very key is her statement, "I'm not saying it is always the right time to say such things".
Such a not right time would be when trying to draw the WAS close again, in it's early stages, where most of you are at. There is a putting on a back burner of one's personal needs that are desired from the WAS at that stage, but hey, you're not going to get them met anyway at that point.
I'm not saying ignore you needs or feelings, just deal with them constructively (not by repressing, that not being the only option) in another way for that moment. The goal is to get your ex-lover to reconsider the relationship, if that's your goal; working on the relationship proper, which includes your needs, comes after.
As an aside, we don't need others to meet our needs. It's absolutely nice for it to be done in a R, but many people aren't in R's, and so, how do they go about it? And even in nice R's, not every need is met by a partner or met sufficiently, true? So it's good to first learn how to meet your own needs, take care of your own feelings, before expecting others to, just like you first have to learn to love yourself before you can love someone else.
