Quote: You see, when W asked what was wrong, I don't think she was asking you what was wrong WITH HER. Figure out your own feelings and report them. Don't tell her how she should react or what she should do in light of them.
I dunno...I've actually done both...swung back and forth between the first and second....target HER when I'm angry and pissed...but when calm, try to express my feelings.
The problem I've found, is first, it's obvious with the first...it's accusatory, and pushes her away.
But with the second, it instills guilt in her and makes her feel bad about herself (even thought I'm describing ME), she ends up saying that she feels horrible that she can't give me what I want or need. I also wonder if it also pushes her away in a different way, by sounding needy, desperate, wimpy?
Crow Jane, Crow Jane, come 'on, I wanna know,
how you love some man, but don't love me no mo'
